It’s tempting to make promises, but can you fulfill them all?

– a recent fortune cookie

Such a strange feeling: to not say “yes”. Or to say nothing at all when there’s a call for volunteers — not even an “I’m sorry, but my schedule is full.” Just nothing at all in response to, “Would anyone be willing to help with _____?”

And then the strange surprise, nearly always: to hear nothing in response. No recrimination. No anger. No surprise. Just the sound of silence as your asker moves on to figure out some other solution.